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So my boyfriend and I are very open with each other about sex. Recently he told me that he's into cross dressing. He's already explained that it's pretty much just dressing up, fap fap fap, then taking it off. I've been trying to find out more about his fetish (why he does it, what he gets out of it, etc) but there are only creepy old guys on most forums.
so I was wondering what you guys/girls get out of it/ what turns you on about it. Sorry about the mildly ignorant post :( I really just want to learn more about my boyfriend's fetish.
Background: mid-20s guy, I only date women, and I have a girlfriend.
I don't really fully dress but I'm into feminization. At times in my life I've owned and wore panties and heels (for fapping purposes), worn makeup and painted my nails. I also have used a few different toys, and enjoy prostate/anal orgasms.
Why do I do it? It's extremely sexually pleasing to do so. What do I get out of it? Rockin' orgasms, almost as good as sex. What turns me on about it? I'm attracted to femininity - I like my girls a bit on the girly side, as opposed to tomboy types - and this is another way of interacting sexually with femininity. There are also currents of submissiveness inherently in traditional perspectives on femininity, as well as a taboo "I shouldn't be doing this, what would people think if they knew I fapped in panties?" angle to it.
Hope that helps. Any advice for a guy who wants to get his girlfriend in on the action?
Okay here's the deal, I'm 19 turning 20 in a few months, and I'm going to start with HRT. My question is since a lot of people that do this seem to start alot earlier can I still expect decent results if I start at 19/20 ?
You'll have results whether you're 15 or 25. As long as you've got the determination and emotional support (in addition to the drugs, ha), you're on your way.
You'll still be starting when you are a teen. That is epic. I feel old (I'm 23, btw). Therefore, do it for me. ;_;
so i just came out as trans to my family. theyve all been hella cool about it, but i want to know what steps can i take to know that i really am trans. ive done a bit of crossdressing and it feels more comfortable to me. but what are some next steps?
im young and confused...help plz?
Talk to people. Not just online, I mean in person. Seek out support groups and councilors who specialize in gender issues... this will help you get into the correct frame of mind as yo pursue engaging a new social context.
young like 14 or 24?some teenagers have a lot of question about theire sexuality and not sure about it.with time and maybe with a partner you sould be able to tell what you do prefer:a masculine chest with a bit of bodyhairor a nice feminine curve.to be crossdresser is not like being a woman. if you're not attracted to men don't make a big problem about it. crossdress the way you like and try to lay hand on a nice girlfriend who shares the same interests
>>1068I'm trans, and I like women.Who you're sexually attracted to has got NOTHING to do with it, and give this kid a break, if they took the a step as huge as coming out to friends and family I'm sure they have some idea of the difference between a transsexual and a crossdresser.
i want to smack that ignorance right out of you.
Anybody got any tips on increasing the size/roundess of your butt as well as mass of your thighs/hips? Are there any special exercises or certain diets that work well or at least a little? I wanna have a slightly more feminine, curvy body, but I don't wanna have to take hormones because I never plan on getting breasts or messing up my dick/balls. I am considering surgery, but even if I choose to go for it, it won't be for several years... Anyways, any help would be appreciated. I'm thankful my body isn't too masculine and it's actually not too far of a stretch to look more feminine. Any little thing would really help!
If sculpting is all you're looking for, then advanced pilates, daily, are all you'll need. It sounds simple, and it is. The size of your butt won't "increase," but you'll definitely get a more rounded and shapely figure in your thigh and hip area.
hey there.so basically im pretty new to the whole tg/cd scene and im pretty interested in it.ikinduh evn would like to try it out myself. PROBLEM: i have a more masculine type body and im a little on the hairy side. iwas just wondering if you more experienced ladys have any tricks up your sleves plz.and just tips for a mabye possible beginer.much help appreciated
>>486You could try body hair removal products (e.g. veet) or just simple shaving products to occlude body hairs temporarily. Additionally, various creams and foundations may be suitable for disclosing surfaces that may appear masculine - search for "how to get feminine/smooth skin" on Google.
Makeup can be a must, depending on whether you're going to transition (to take hormones to develop secondary sexual characteristics of the female body - this will basically make your body look like that of a woman's with a few exceptions (depending on how masculine your skeleton is).)
However, clothing is probably the most important element for "passing" as a female - you're best options is probably trying various clothing styles and finding the one you feel most comfortable in.
Note: only take hormones if you really really want to be a female; if it gets to the point where it depresses you. If you're happy and comfortable as a male, then you're probably best at staying that way; however, if you feel discomfort, depression and thoughts of harming yourself, you're best option is to see a specialist (gender therapist) to find a means to resolve these problems.
If you wish to learn more, my email is email@example.com - I hope this helps, and best of luck! :)
Well I succeeded in epilating much of my face last night after about six months o semi-regularly tweezing my facial hair.
No break-outs or redness the next day. I have DONE it. It is POSSIBLE.
Fuck yeah this beard just keeps getting thinner and thinner by the day.
Hi all,I decided to take my first steps in CD. I decided to remove some of my bodyhair. I just decided to go to town on it, i mean how hard can it be right? It seems that I have underestimated woman and ran into a bump when trying to shave my armpits. it's quite hard to get my razor into the deepest part of my armpits (I am skinny as hell, i think that plays a part in it) so I end up with stubs all over.Does anyone have some tips on shaving? I prefer using a razor, the idea of wax still somewhat scares me.
For armpits, in particular, trim first. Then lather with a body shaving cream rather fully; and shave upward.
I position my arms as such: If I'm shaving under my right arm, I pretty much wrap my arm around my head such that I can almost tough my left ear... it completely exposes your arm (however inelegantly). Then shave upward, slowly until you've taken off most of the toplayer foam. If you use this positioning or some variant of it, you won't have any trouble reaching all of your underarm area.
I feel like I can see my bra through every shirt I own. Perhaps it's just a bad selection of shirts, but I'm starting to lean towards the bras -- perhaps they are ill fitting or the wrong colour. They are fairly dark colours, and of a push-up variety.
Anyone have any suggestions to help me prevent seemingly every tshirt with the slightest tightness to it from becoming sort of sheer and showing my bra?
In my experience, push-up bras were made to be seen... so you're going to have a difficult time trying to hide a bra designed to show off.
That'll explain it, thanks! I guess I'm in the market for a new bra, then.
I just had a thought. One good way to hide a push-up bra would probably be during the cold weather periods, when it's viable to wear sweatshirts and whatnot.
22 year old Tommy Andrews walked into club twist on south beach and sat down at the bar to get out of the sun, a cute street kid the bouncer knew from seeing him traipsing up and down the boulevard advertising his wares; a smooth talking con man with ants in his pants to make it in show business, and a shot in hell at it too. Some guy bought him a drink and contemplated taking him home, chatting him up. Tom was just glad to be in the cool and have some cold alcohol whatever it was to sip on as he lounged in the dark around the bar surrounded my a mixed crowd of openly gay men, when by walked Katrina DeVille, transgirl escort extraordinaire. Without thinking tom had his hand out in front of him stopping her in her tracks, slowing down the millipede crawl of bar patrons making their way in from the back patio. He'd cut a bee line to her the moment she came into sight, his eyes never left hers. They chatted and she confessed she was trans. Tom was taken aback. He didn't know. Yeah she was in a gay bar but staight girls came in here all the time to get away from the miami thug crowd. Tom was gay for pay, sleeping with men to survive his life on the street, trying to hustle to make it out there in the rap game or the acting game or some other game, so long as he was entertaining and being famous. Half an hour later he was in the bathroom with her getting a blowjob and fucking her doggystyle. Then back to the bar, then both of them back at some guy's house - who'd had a grand old time watching young love blossom and had volunteered his condo to host the denoumante - fucking in the dark while a third wheel's paw tinkered with his asshole, a host tax if you ever saw one. He came and they got dressed and hit the streets again, back to the club, to a brief life together. He stole a car for her, cleanly, when a trick took him home and passed out on the couch, locking him into the house, and via the gate, into the property. A pocket sweep, key's, a backyard window, a fence hop, a search for a gate clicker, and a joyride to his transgirlfriend's place; where he found himself once again inside her, and that, the last time he would ever be.
im a thin, petite, very passable crossdresser. i would loooooove to get into cd, tv, ts porn or have a site. how do you go about that? who do you have to talk to?
Well, that depends. If you're interested in posing on someone else's site you just need to go through that site's channels until you get to the right person. Alternatively, you could find yourself an agent (yes, even pornstars have them) and let them do the leg work for you...but they'll take a cut.
If you want to start your own site, the first person you need to talk to is a lawyer. You're going into business, which means you'll need to get a tax ID number, incorporate (I'd suggest an LLC, it offers a degree of legal separation between your actions and those of your business,) and make sure all of the proper papers that prove you're a consenting adult are on file.
Hope that helped.
i want to post some pics of myself...but i want to do it with someone and share and have some fun......is anyone into that?
I'm pretty sure someone will volunteer to help you out. Where are you located.
This is probably posted a lot on here so I'll apologize firstly.
Can someone put in simple terms what exactly I need to be taking from inhousepharmacy for HTR. There seems to be a lot of conflicting information.
Also what effects will that have on my body, Good or otherwise, just lay it out there for me :)
Prepare for more conflicting information.
Here are some links I've found useful.http://www.transgendercare.com/medical/hormonal/hormone-tx_assch_gooren.htm
See a doctor if there's even the remotest chance of getting on a real program. There are too many particulars like your natural hormone levels and sensitivities to consider, and possible complications you need to watch for.
If this is impossible, proceed cautiously and with low dosages to start. See a doctor for checkups regularly.
Spironolactone and one of the estrogen's, Estrofem is a good one for oral med. They list a mid range dosage level on inhouse. Don't take/eat too much high potassium stuff while your own the spiro.
I'm worried about my hair thinning in the future, Which treatment would halt or reverse this?
>>806Hair loss = DHT.
Spiro inhibits binding of all androgens including DHT. Finasteride targets specifically DHT, and was developed with hair loss in mind, so it may have fewer side effects.
If you're on any HRT, hair loss should quickly become a non-issue anyway. Just don't lose too much hair before beginning HRT or you might not get it all back.
On the topic of HRT and hair, I've noticed some new hair coming in. Sooo, my hairline is effectively 1-2cm lower than it was before. Plus my hair is much thicker. As a side note which may be relevant, male pattern baldness doesn't really run in my family. But if you are balding, well, as with anything HRT helps with, the sooner the better.
I've used the information found here:
the one thing i must say is BE CAREFUL with any type of hormone therapy you start..It can be a fantastic help to your transition but if not done correctly it can really mess up your body.
don't OD by taking large doses and see a doctor if possible
I am a 20 year old male and i really want to become a trap, or as close as i can get. i haven't crossdressed outside of my room and my main concern is that not matter what i do ill just end up looking ugly. my gf has been alot of help but i want to know if anyone can help me out. i have an average build but ive been trying to slim down. i just want to know is there anyway i can look good without using hormones. idk if i want to go that far yet.
You don't transition to be pretty.
Uh yeah, you do. Otherwise you are just a man with makeup on.
>>1014to quote the Spy from TF2: "I think not."
The process of transitioning is a serious choice to make and isn't something that you can decide on a whim. Anyone who's gone through the process and/or is considering this knows it.
>>1012>>1014>>1015You shouldn't do most things just for appearances, but there's nothing wrong with asking for tips if you want to look good.>>1010let's see...do exercise like running, swimming. if you use weight machines, you can tailor a routine to strength and toning w/ o bulking. concentrate on toning legs, ass, abs. cut out some excess fat and carbs from your diet. continue to get tips from gf on makeup, clothes, whatev
>>1015 it's a good thing no one cares about your retarded opinion.
I'm with Krystal. I'm a closet CDer, haven't thought of going public yet. Right now I just have a few basic pieces of clothing, shave everything (well, almost everything), and sometimes play with makeup. What's the next step? Is there a tutorial or something for starting off?
I think the thing about being pretty is somewhat hard to understand. There's male beauty and female beauty. Im assuming what OP mean was that he wants to have more feminine beauty. Im a pretty decent looking guy, but thats because i have manly features. a cut jaw and shit, but i want to look more feminine.
I think my glasses are pretty male-ish. Anyone have suggestions on glasses styles that are feminine? What makes glasses feminine?
buy female or unisex glasses duh
I found this on /cgl/ on 4chan, thought it would be helpful here too, though not sure how accurate some of it is and ignore some of the terms.
Tutorials- http://www.lancome.co.uk/_en/_gb/applications/index.aspx?- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZeSXp-aMlI-- Note that this video is LONG and the maker tends to ramble; feel free to skip forward a lot...
5 'o clock shadow- Colortration (covers shadow/scars/tattoos, but it's expensive)- facial wax (too costly and long term) (too coarse to wax)- nair for face: http://naircare.com/products/sens_facecream.aspx (should be good for price and the amount of time that it works for)- reshave midday-- Use actual razors or a REALLY good electric razor-- Smooth Away DOES NOT WORK.
Jawline- look for characters whose hair covers vertical jawline, then use makeup tricks on the chin- use a dark concealer on chin and jawline, then pronounce cheekbones with blush
Eyebrows- use hairgel to shape eyebrows thinner- a good trick for passing in pictures is using a dark eyeliner or eyebrow pencil for drawing on darker, thinner eyebrows over lighter ones- if you're going to pluck, even a little will make a difference if you do it right:-- start from the bottom and work upward-- you don't have to make a dramatic eyebrow so long as you clean it up a little; pull out the stray ones
Misc- Simply put, the more you pay, the better it is. Some good brands are:--Max Factor--MAC--Lancome
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Thanks for the find; I've saved it for future reference. /cgl/ is actually pretty good for this kind of info, even though it comes rarely. I've already saved lots of links and such from there.
well, share the wealth. What else have you found?
Aside from laser hair removal what are some tips using either make-up or other methods to get rid of the skin tone change between where you shave your face and don't shave? Even when it is baby smooth I can still see a tone difference using a foundation. I want to get rid of that. If it is possible without make-up or expensive procedures it would make me very happy.
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>>795Don't believe the hype on commercials, Just a waste of money that could be used for something that works.
You could always experiment I guess, but don't burn too much money on it.
If you find something that actually works (doubt), be sure to tell us.
I have an epilator.. When I first got it, I did my left arm with it, cried in agony, then put it in the bathroom drawer for a few months. I decided to try it again fairlyrecently, and it mostly just tickled.
However everything else was excruciating, just as it was the first time I did my arm. Particularly the underarms and inner thighs. Totally worth it though. I can do my entire body in about 15-20 minutes, and Im hairless andsmooooth for 2+ weeks. Some hair tends to grow back faster.
To put it in perspective, I'd spend about 10 minutes in the shower shaving 2-3 times a week. That equates to like 17 hours a year spent shaving, versus less than 6 hours ayear to epilate. Then factor in the costs you will save onshaving cream and razors. Then take into account the stubblethat shows up a day or three later. This why I say..fuck shaving!
In regards to epilating your face, beware of hyperpigmentationand scarring. I've had this compulsive habit since I was 15 orso when I was nervous or bored, I would pull my facial hair out using my fingernails. It doesn't appear to have messed anything up. Like yanking any other hair out, it gets easier with repetition, and there is the occasional ingrown hair.
As far as using the epilator for the face, it's rather brutal. I can only do my cheeks and the area under my chin/on my neck. Anything else, and I have a hard time navigating the thing around. It's just inherently difficult because of the curvature. If you're not careful running it over certain 'terrain' will bite you. Eeek.
>>816Where do you buy a good epilator?
And just to say, I've had some BAD EXPERIENCE removing hairs from my face. Most of them grew back normally, but a few turned into these nasty thick plug type boss hair things. They look like little black dots and feel like ingrowns, but when you finally get them out, they have about 3x the diameter of a normal hair. Two of the three stayed gone when I got them, but the third came back a SECOND TIME!
I got mine through Amazon. It's a Braun 549 I believe. Cost around $50.
OMG I get those too sometimes, I have to use a tweezers and I check at least once a week. What is with that?
>>825I pulled one out recently and it was thinner at the bottom. I think if you pull a hair out the wrong way, it does that as it grows back. Seems temporary, but of course you'll keep getting them if you keep pulling hairs out!
I'm going for a laser consultation next Tuesday! Too bad I won't be able to get treatments started until the spring, but it's going to feel good just to have the appointments booked.
>>793It's me again, the one who said he'd pluck his facial hair.
So far I've done all of it at least once save for my beard reaching from the chin down under and just little bit onto the neck. My upper lip is surprisingly easy to maintain with tweezers now although a few sparse hairs can now be seen as tiny tiny black dots, like with my eyebrow hairs.
I got really impatient when I was doing my cheeks and sideburns to the point where I had actually taken my epilator and finished off the corners (near the jaw line, below the ear, in back) with it. I got a couple of pimples from doing that but otherwise it turned out all right. Because my chest broke out into wild pimples the first time I epilated it, I was especially worried about turning the thing on my face. Looks like my fears weren't unfounded.
I'll keep going with this but it is difficult to keep motivated as the hairlessness only lasts one week and is almost immediately followed by dark black ingrown hairs that don't even turn into pimples but still take a while to poke out of the skin so I can pluck or epilate them. That and I don't want to use the epilator with my roommate around (I don't know if I mentioned this already, but this epilator is noisy as fuck).
Should have been keeping a photo record but what all of you probably want to know, like me, is: how long do you have to have been using an epilator for the hair to become under control? I'll let you all know when/if I get there.
Is there a consensus for the best way to remove bodyhair? Particularly in the ass/thigh region? I've been shaving but I'm looking into waxing...is that the way to go?
tired of shaving every other day :( i hate stubbles. one day i tried waxing stripes on a fairly short hair leg and AMAZING, the smoothness lasts 3+ days until stubbles appeared. the bad thing about waxing is you have to wait for the hair to grow back long enough to wax again.
This is something I wanted to talk about for some time but never did because I simply don't want to bring up my..... age. I am a young woman (or whatever) in my early thirties and see so many so many young girls here. I wonder if I can keep up in regards to being sexually appealing. I say this because... well...... I'm the oldest fucking bitch on this block and fuck, if it doesn't bother the shit out of me. I mean, I look fine. I also have emulated older women in the past even when I was much younger. Transition plays no part of this as I only address this in regards to "whom would desire a woman amongst girls"?At this point, my years of self abuse and experience show through now. This is not really a bad thing to me as I see it as a kind of "war scar". I address so many as, "young lady" as a term of endearment. Holy fuck....Granted, my mother and sister looked best at 40-45 for some reason. Also, many find a great relationship they could never have had at a younger age.It would seem that money is such an important factor in my life now. My craving for sex was replaced for a craving for that yummy green paper and a purse for each day of the week. The fuck went wrong. Matter of fact, if a man doesn't have basic things like a "job" or a "car", I don't even give his broke sorry ass the time of day. Does this make me a tranny bitch?Yes.Well, anyhoo......What the fuck was I saying? Oh. yes, I love being an adult woman but often feel like I'm less desirable. Do I still have some kind of appeal to men? Or should I put my hair in pigtails and act like I can't spell my name let alone but my own dinner?
This is what I get for attempting to write falling asleep at my desk.
>>577 You are the best looking person in the fucking internets. Stop attempting to write falling asleep on your desk.
...she wrote, nearly falling asleep on her own d-- oh wait...
I can't really judge whether you are superficially appealing to superficial creatures, i.e. men. As I told you before, I'm terrible at evaluating appeal on a physical level. I can say, however, that you are intellectually and psychologically appealing to messed up non-transitioning girls like myself, though I am considerably younger physically.
You could theoretically find pretending to innocent and superficial youth beneficial in some situations, but I can't imagine any that you, as you present, would actually value. You are a complex insane adult woman and I don't think anybody of import would want it any other way.
hell, get my email address in the email thread (kalamazoo, mi) and write me. My ex wife was (is) three years older than I. I'm attracted to maturity and had enough of virgins long ago.
this is to the OP
hi, new here and just catching up on all the threads.
had no idea you were in your 30's. thought id post in here because i identified with what you have said.
i just turned 28 and actually feel the same way you do. oh and im a guy btw.
and yeah the money thing is strange. you just realize there more to life than just chasing sex. so you achieve things like owning a nice house, car, business, whatever.
dont really have anything to add this other than to say...
you actually provide a very important roll here. If i had access to this board while in high school i strongly believe i could very well have been traping.
you seem to provide a wealth of knowledge and experience and advice to all members of this board. From people thinking about transitioning to people just simply curious about it, helping to dissolve prejudice against transsexuals/gays ect
without realizing it you could have even gone as far as to save people from depression or worse from feeling so alone or so confused. because of people like you this board is a treasure.
a younger person could not provide this.
the young kids you and i see now are the generation below us. in only a few years the next generation will come through. every one gets old and down.
but you'll never be the only one.
Perhaps this isn't exactly the right crowd to propose this question to, but then again, no other crowd seems quite right. For the past two and a half years I've been dating the same crossdresser. She's awesome and we're thinking about making it permanent, it would be just like a commitment ceremony, but here's the thing: I haven't told my parents about her yet. For two and a half years I've been talking about my girlfriend but they've only seen her a couple of times and it took gobs of time on both our parts to work up the courage to even do that. She's passable enough that it worked those two or three times but they think she's a girl, albeit a bit of a manish-looking one with a bit of a deep voice... They are hardly tolerant of gays at all and would rather see people like me not exist, although of course they don't exactly know they hate me too. The question is, how do I come out to my parents this late in the game? I love 'em to pieces, just really not their religious traits which are making them act like assholes whenever the subject comes up. If they don't like gays they'll double-hate me for lying to them and I would legitimately fear for my girlfriend's safety if she went over to their house to meet their friends. It's killing the both of us since both of us want to tell them but neither of us can think of a way that won't mean that I never talk to either one of them ever again.
:( Advice at all?
I've lived in a similar situation. I love traps, and trap myself quite often with stern religious folk. Thing is, they probably already know. You mentioned they met her? They can probably tell. You're their kid, which leads me to my next point. They shouldn't get super mad, you're their kid. They'll probably be surprised if you come out about it, but they shouldn't cut you off. Besides if they do cut you off, one way of looking at it is you're now free of people who wouldn't support you properly. But why tell them? Ignorance is bliss.
They have no right to stop you, so if they object (which if they do, can't be for very long considering you're content) don't let them bother you about it. Don't let them ruin your happiness.
just tell them, i told mine they ignored me 4 months and my bro wont talk 2 me but they talk to me now, but they never bring up the subject... my mom still talks about me having kids.. i let her be ignorant and i dont see them much..dont miss them either
Do you know any diet or shampoo etc. that makes your hair grow faster?
Mine grows far too slow and i wish i had long hair
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A couple articles from Livestrong.
Thanks for the help^^
Don't rush things. Take plenty of vitamins and eat healthily so the hair growing in will be nice and strong.
Biotin. Its at wal-mart, with the other vitamins.
Horse shampoo & conditioner are excellent to help kickstart some growth....most places have it. Walgreens, etc.
These are two things that have helped me.First is an avocado mash. All you do is cut and mash one avocado, add one egg and a bit of vitamin E oil. Mix all that shit up and work it into your dry hair. Let it stay for about 20 minutes to a half hour. Simply wash it out and I promise your hair will glow.Another thing I do (I'm a "tree hugger") is take a little cider vinegar and spray into your hair before a shower. The vinegar restores the PH and cleans well.You can't make your grow fast. I've been into this health and beauty shit for a long time and it all comes down to working with what you have.Besides, longer hair is not more fem. Not every chick has long hair. I have had short hair and kept it short all through my transition.
>>986that's freaking bad ass. Any advice for fullness/volume? Currently using gagnier fructis, but I fear it might not actually be great for my hair.
>>998 iunno if its true but stuff with vitamin e might helpalso 1000 get?
Ok, so I am a biological male, and really have no desire to be female. However, people tell me I have a figure for trapping and that I would look good dressed up. I never really tried it because I am afraid of doing it wrong and looking absolutely terrible. I was kind of hoping I could find another trap to dress me up, but I never managed to find anyone. I mean, this may not be a regular thing, but I always sort of wanted to try it. I have a sort of fem figure with semi-masc face, broad shoulders and a deep voice. I don't really own any girl's clothes other than underwear and some girl's workout shorts. Thoughts?
Buy some clothes and practise.