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I posted a thread about this in /tg/ but it was apparently deleted.
Do any of of you CDs/traps/TGs/TSes who aren't on the pretty side have any advice for how to deal with that fact? I'm so ridiculously discouraged by how masculine and ugly I am. It keeps me from dressing up more often, just because I'm so disappointed by how far I fall short of my goal.
This post will make me the most hated trap on planet earth but it will help you resolve your conflict. Don't read into this statement to much."Every tranny is fail."It's easy to pass in a room full of traps because we all see each other in the same light."Your a purty gurl! <3"But the fact is.... we are fail. Attractive, fem, pass, thin... whatever. Fail. Now, in knowing this, don't you feel way better. You can start living your life the way you want to. You can be the person you wanted to be. It's your time to shine, mang!What makes you a woman? Here is something to think about.Does cross dressing make you a woman? Estradiol? Your sex life?No. The estradiol and countless skirts don't make you a woman. You are a woman because in your mind you live your life as a woman.Like I said, this comment will flag me as the most hated but I was not the one that said this to begin with. It was one of the most beautiful TG girls I have ever seen. When she talked about being a fail tranny, I died laughing. But it's this rational truth that will set you free. My name is Shadow and I am fucking fail. What a relief. Now I can just be myself.
Personally, I settle this conflict with the knowledge that I have reconciled a few things about myself: (1) It's a solid fact that somewhere in the world, there's a biological girl with my exact body shape/type, with this in mind, imagin this girl in the mirror, think of how she presents herself, how she dresses herself appropriately, and so on; (2) to quote crossdresser Charles Anders' book 'The Lazy Crossdresser': "You may already have felt uncomfortable with your body in men's clothes, so it may feel liberating to wear the 'right' threats at last. But also, things that bothered you a bit about your body may nag more when you go girly [...] Think of girl duds as a passport to physical insecurity. A body that may have seemed perfectly serviceable when you wore jeans and bowling shirts suddenly sticks out in the wrong places." and (3) I've worked through the "guilt" and compulsion of being a man masquerading as a woman, effectively putting on a facade for myself... that's all by me now.
It's not something you'll come to believe overnight -- but try to understand that looking how you want to look and being who you want/need to be rarely if ever start out on the same emotional wavelength. Trying to make these two parallel lines converge on the horizon, for me, includes staying healthy physically and emotionally.
>>239 This. And also, consider what your goals are. Are you say over 9000 pounds and want to look like Linetrap? Always set your goal to a level that will see results if you TRY to make it happen. My face need more pass... how does face pass itself? Well, go get your brows did, your hair did and do like I do and use every product on the market to get a clear soft skin. Take care of yourself, lose a little. How about welcome to womanhood. I'm an older woman. I have to do everything in the book in order to pass. I'm very sure you don't have anti-wrinkle cream on your dresser.Think about how a woman lives her life. What work does she do in order to look good. Do just that.Also, you mention being ugly. I to am ugly as sin! I fucking rein in my ugliness. Somehow, i won the game. I have younger traps posting "I love you" and chasers around every corner of the internet. Why would these people want to even give my ugly ass the time of day? I'm an old tranny that drinks like a fish and smokes a pack a day. Everybody knows my reputation and just about everything they say about me is true. I am such fucking fail you wouldn't believe it.The key word is confidence. I am confident despite the way I look. This turns people on. I never care about what people think, I do as I please and start fires online just to see them grow. People like confident. As a matter of fact, confidence can be more of a key factor in passing than fucking whoremoans. Think about that.So, set REAL goals.Be confident.Emulate women.Win the game.
>>240No one can with THE GAME.
Thanks for the advice, everyone. It's appreciated, although I still don't know that I can completely accept it...
Bump. Im a reletivly masculine guy and i really want to start crossdressing, I'd love to be a trap but thats unrealistic. I admire men who can pull off crossdressing on confidence alone, its so inspiring.
Ive resently started buying long socks/thing high socks (what are they called?) and 'panties' because they are eay to hide.
I have low confidence and very time i go to wear anything unmanly i think im a perv and shit.
>>293Everyone has there own vice(s) they hide from other people, because they think it will make people view them as a deviant. Since everyone has a vice, who is say one is worse than another (assuming your vice doesn't involve hurting non-consenting parties)
Don't worry about feeling like a perv, unless you like that feeling. =)
>>237Yea once you stop focusing on the "perfect body,face, or wtv" you can enjoy the good looking aspects you can reach and have. This is true for all people, transgendered or not... although I'm sure its harder for some than others, I consider myself a work in progress...
Just one question OP; where did you get the picture of those shoes? I must have them :3
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You are a horrible person. I was scrolling down and all I saw was THE GAME.
those shoes look adorable and I want them!